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Still Hate Everything You Own?

Are you still beating yourself up about your wardrobe? Talking crap to yourself about what a terrible shopper you are? How NOTHING fits your body so you keep buying the same boring thing is 20 different colors so you don’t screw it up? Just like any bad behavior, it takes time to re-work old habits that don’t serve any real purpose in your life. Time to stop the self-loathing…..

I always tell people I’m more shrink than stylist. Literally we are talking 70% therapist, 30% fashion guru. I’m here to talk you off the ledge, remind you that fashion is meant to be fun and that screwing up an outfit will only ruin your day (maybe), not your life. It is time to re-think the stress that this part of your existence is causing you and make it fun. I constantly remind people that there is logic behind the concept of style and being “born with it” is mostly BS. I sucked at shopping and styling until I was in my mid-20′s. I should mention that I had already decided I was going to be a stylist at that point, talk about changing your mindset into awesome…..

So just like last time we are going to start with the basics. This is the first step in getting out of the rut, you don’t hate your wardrobe, you just haven’t been taught how to build it correctly. 



 Grey pencil skirt

I’m sure a lot of you are going to argue that you look fat in a pencil skirt because it hugs you everywhere you hate. I’m also pretty sure you already know that I’m going to tell you that you are wrong, dead wrong. The pencil skirt was created for a gal with curves, big curves, little curves and everything in between. Actually, the irony of this piece is that the only person it doesn’t really look that great on is someone with absolutely NO curves. You don’t have to be a business woman to covet the iconic pencil skirt. Pull it out for date night with a leather bomber to edge it out. Rock it at a school function where showing the other mother’s you’re awesome looks like it comes naturally. As I have hammered this next point home before, choose a style that suits your lifestyle and personality. My black pencil skirt has a large zipper up the back for added badass effect. And, more then anything else, make sure it fits correctly. This means it should touch just below your belly button at the top, pencil in tightly at the bottom, land just above your knee and fit snugly. You will most likely think it is slightly too tight if it actually fits properly!!!

Pencil Skirt 



Black sheath

Next up, the LBD, or little black dress for those that are still new to the lingo of awesome style. This could literally mean anything when it comes to your lifestyle. I personally own at least 5 versions of the LBD depending on what the function is that I’m attending, from work to play, she is a vital piece in any stylish girl’s wardrobe. Almost every single client of mine has an LBD and for every one of them I restyled it in a billion ways. That is the beauty of this piece, she can go from the office, to drinks after work to a wedding. The material is really what changes it up, so picking a neutral option that isn’t too shiny or too dull is the best bet for maximum styling potential. Changing up the jewelry, shoes, tights (or lack there of), bag and layering piece changes the magic of your LBD.

 Sheath Dress


Black blazer

The single breasted, simple black blazer is dope. It can be worn with anything. You name it, jeans, pants, skirts, dresses….. From casual to dressy, this item will be worked to a pulp. This tuxedo style is super sassy and definitely will not work for everyone, but I really wanted to make sure you understand the concept of “making it your own”. Most people would choose a more demure option, most people aren’t me. My basic black blazer is a tuxedo style and I wear it with everything. Mine has a slightly smaller lapel so it doesn’t make quite the statement the one above does. Even I have my boundaries! Pick a style that has just enough flare to take you to the edge, you always want to push yourself slightly while keeping in your comfort zone with your foundation items. Basics do not = boring.



black tote

Your bag is like the trunk of your car, except this one you take inside with you so it better be good. You throw your life in it, most times it isn’t organized and you lose things you swore were in there. Your bag is essentially the most important thing you own so making it functional and obviously stylish is SUPER important. This is the biggest “cost per wear” item in your entire wardrobe. If you shop correctly, you will truly only need one neutral bag for everyday. Before I even discuss style with clients, I discuss function. What do you do everyday? Where are you going? What are you carrying? Do you need to be hands free? What annoys you about your current bag? You have to start by being honest with yourself about your life and how your bag can help to make it easier. Then start focusing on styles and colors that you like. Yes, color! Your everyday bag does not have to be black. Neutral can mean a whole bunch of different things to different people. A great bag is like the cherry on top of the sundae of your outfit, it truly can make the entire look that much better. Spend moolah on this piece, it is will make everything you have on look more expensive…..




Black Shell

And drumroll please….. For our final piece of the TOP 10 FOUNDATION ITEMS TO OWN, I introduce to you the basic shell! Everyone should own a black and a white shell. This means simple in style, a round neck line (V neck is way to difficult to style with everything) and silhouette skimming. The world should know you have a body under there. If you are having a moment and cannot figure out how to style something, it will ALWAYS go with a basic black or white shell. Always. So this is truly the no-fail piece in your wardrobe that will make everything else work.


Are you still standing on the ledge? Back up, your style world has just become a lot sunnier. You now know how to begin this journey and broaden the horizons of your current wardrobe without all that much effort. Focus on building your foundation pieces and put a hold on the “trendy” part of your wardrobe. You need the glue girl to hold it all together! Shopping for foundation items is going to be more fun then you think. What really brings the joy is when you get home and you realize you CAN STYLE THINGS and that you don’t suck as bad as you thought you did. You just didn’t own the right things yet…..







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